1.18.2012

Why Many Mormons Marry Young

 Today I am posting my guest post I did over at Mia's blog Color It Mia right here!
I have said this before but eventually I'd like to post all guest posts I write onto my blog so they will be in my blog book when I go to get it printed out! Anyways, I enjoyed writing this post with a purpose for Mia and hope it is informative! Let me know if you have any questions and be sure to head on over and say hi to Mia here! On a side note, I think I need to blog about my wedding sometime as I haven't...! Okayyyy read on!
 
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Hey guys, I'd like to introduce to you my friend Ashley! If you read my post about Mormons, you know I follow a lot of them. I am not Mormon, but I am religious (hence my interest in their religion). I follow a lot of blogs that happen to be in the LDS church. They're all crazy nice people, and not crazy crazy, like "Sister Wives". I'll give you the low down on what I've found to be true:

They believe getting married is for eternity, not life. 
They don't drink, smoke, drink caffeine, or wear immodest clothing.

Honestly, it mostly sounds like the Catholic religion! (Minus the praying to Mary and saints and stuff).

And if all of this is Greek to you, just scroll down and meet Ashley. She's awesome, I promise. 
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Hi friends of Color it Mia! 
I am glad to be here taking over Mia's blog for the day! 
Mia is the sweetest and I adore her blog!
Who is this random girl on her blog? I'm Ashley from Sloanbook :) I blog about my husband and I and our chihuahua in our new home in Colorado! We both just graduated from Brigham Young University (BYU) and are now enjoying life after college, which is definitely a big change, but good so far!

Awhile ago, Mia asked me on Twitter basically the question of 
"Is it normal in the Mormon religion to marry young? 
Or are you guys just lucky finding the "ones" early on?"

Today I am going to attempt (key word here) to answer Mia's question for you all! Now before we get started I would like to say that I am giving my opinion. I do not know the 'correct' or 'right' answer to this. Also, I am in no way an amazing writer so I'm sure it won't come out as eloquently as I'd like it. And that is a fact.
But I am a Mormon  (member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints) and I got married at age 20 which most people would consider young.
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Now let me tell you about my own personal experience.
I met Kevin -my now husband- sophomore year at BYU right at the beginning of Fall semester (in September). He had just moved back to Utah after serving a two year mission for our church in Milan, Italy. We met at the Wilkinson Center in line for some crappy Italian food (basically the food court). After that he invited me to sit and each lunch with him and his friends and then over to his apartment to hang out and it all went down from there! We hung out all the time and then next thing I knew it he was telling me he loved me. Then came spring time and we started talking about marriage and I knew he was the one. I decided I would marry Kevin and I prayed and got a confirmation that it was the right choice. I felt good about my decision. We were engaged that spring and got married on 08.08.08. Now that is August, not even one whole year of knowing Kevin as we met September of 2007! Crazy huh? But it was the best decision I have ever made! I love Kevin so much! We've now been married just over 3 years!

Now that was just my experience. I was married at 20 years old and Kevin was 23. I would like to be clear that not all Mormons get married young. I have lots of friends from freshman year in the dorms who are not married yet and many of them have graduated BYU. It is normal to be not be married in the late 20's or 30's. I would have to say that in comparison to other religions, that Mormons do get married the youngest.

I guess they all came to the same conclusion that I did, that they found the right person. I have seen 18 year olds get married. I've seen one get married and I felt like it was the right choice for her as she is very mature, maybe even more so than me! I've also seen an 18 year old get married who I felt was very immature and maybe it was really rushed in to. But who am I to judge; I am not. I do not know her that well but there are also different maturity levels that play into it.

Now that you are aware that not all Mormons get married early I will tell you why I think a a lot of them do.  That lies in our religious background and beliefs.

To understand the Mormon habits of marriage you must understand our view of the family. Take a look at: The Family: A Proclamation to the World (HERE). This document explains the importance of the family entity. I will throw in a few quotes after what I say, from that document, so you don't have to read the whole thing, unless you want to.

We believe that marriage is vital in God's eternal plan and that marriage doesn't stop at death do you part.
We believe that families can be together forever and that children are a very important part of the family.

"The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated
beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples
make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for
families to be united eternally."


We believe the role of a mother is a sacred responsibility and not to be taken lightly which is why we desire to marry early and start our families because we feel it is a divine calling to be a mother and a father.

"The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential
for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God's commandment for
His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further
declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are
to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and
wife.


Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each
other and for their children. "Children are an heritage of the Lord" (Psalms 127:3).
Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and
righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to
teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of
God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and
wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the
discharge of these obligations."

I hope that gives you some insight into why a lot of Mormons get married young. But remember, not all do! I know lots of older people who are not married!

If you have any questions feel free to visit Mormon.org or shoot me an email at sloanbookblog@gmail.com 

And I would love for you to stop by my blog here
IF you happen to like reading about young married Mormons, I'm your girl ;)
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See! Isn't she great? Pop on over to her blog, and she recently did a home tour of her new house, and it's adorable. Hope you guys enjoyed, and seriously, if you have any questions, send me or her an email, or comment below!

16 comments:

  1. Great thoughts, thanks for sharing this!

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  2. This is a good explanation!
    I feel like I was old in Mormon land, and I was only 21, just a couple of months away from 22. None of my non-member friends are even in serious relationships, and we all graduated college last year.

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  3. I'm very interested in religion/faith (not being a religious person myself) so I found this very interesting! Thanks for your insight. :)

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  4. You did an amazing job with this post and explaining your thoughts, feelings, and belief ;)

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  5. great post! thanks for sharing :) I'm not a morman, but I got married young too! Also, after not even a year of knowing my husband. I was 19 and he was 21, and we are going on 3 years of marriage! Do you have a post on what mormans believe or the difference in morman and christianity or other religions? If so I would love to read it! I have lots of blogg friends who are morman so I am always trying to know more about their (y'alls) religion!
    <3xo

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  6. I love posts like these! Especially when they are as eloquently written. I got married at nineteen. I didn't see any reason to wait since I knew Cooper was the one! And I definitely don't think I have been held back at all because I wasnt a bit older

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  7. oh i'm so glad you stopped by my blog today so i could come read this post of yours. i just got married august 5th and i am 20 :) oh and that picture on my blog was from the wilk! so cute that you two met in the tomasittos line- me and my hubby met in art 101 at BYU ha! hope to see you around the blogging world more often!

    love,
    mrs. dtf

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  8. Aaaawwww girl. I just stumbled across your blogging world a few days ago, but I am so glad I did.

    That is a tricky thing to talk about, religion. I'm LDS, and I moved back east when I was 23, and to have to explain to almost everyone I met that I wasn't a polygamist..etc.. the whole sh'bang. Oh it was not epic, but worth explaining every single time.

    Go you. I'm proud of you, it is brave. Religion is personal, you know?

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  9. this is so interesting! thanks for sharing it! xo

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  10. I really enjoyed reading this because I've always had the same question as your friend! I grew up being friends with a lot of Mormons and I thought I got married young at 22 but most of them already have babies by that age!

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  11. love this!!

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    your newest follower :)

    follow me back? XOXO

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  12. I've been dying to know this too! I swear 85% of my reader is filled by my Mormon "blog friends". Every one of them is so kind, talented and fun!

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